Friday, August 7, 2009

Welcome and some explanations!!!

Welcome to the Big Red Wedding Blog!!!

Some of you may be asking: "What's a Blog???"

Well, a blog is like a diary, of sorts, kept on the internet.

This blog is full of photos, video footage and other memories from the wedding.

Blog Archive
On the right hand side of the page, you will see the 'Blog Archive' where you can find any of the entries at a glance. Some of the entries have video footage so you can relive the experience again and again and again.

Just below that are a selection of photo albums. If you want to look at an album more closely, just click on it and another window will open giving you access to all the photos in that album. They can be viewed as a slideshow and even downloaded to your computer.
The photos are at a relatively high resolution but if you want a particular shot in maximum resolution (eg. for large scale printing) just drop us an email and let us know which one you'd like.

More blogs!
Below the photo albums are links to Dan and Andi's other blogs. They are both freaky computer nuts who love sharing their passions on the interwebs. Check it out!!!

Wedding Credits
At the very bottom of the page are the "Wedding Credits" so if you loved the venue or the music or the flowers or the food, you can get in touch for your very own functions.

Enjoy the blog and be sure to leave us comments so we know you've stopped by to visit.

Much love,

Andi & Dan xxxx


  • for coming
  • for giving
  • for helping
  • for playing
  • for donating
  • for dancing
  • for listening
  • for sharing
  • for joining us to help make this occasion so very special.
Much love,
Dan, Andi, Jake and Ella xxxx

Sunday, August 2, 2009

Did you know we got married twice?

Because Rav Ian is based in the UK, he is not registered to perform official wedding ceremonies in Victoria.

So, we had a small civil ceremony at home on the morning of the big day with our little family, our parents and a celebrant.

A photo album can be found on the right hand side of the blog.

As for the second ceremony, here is a cut-down version for your viewing pleasure:

Jacqui & Bumi's Speeches

Shirley & Peter's Speeches

Ella's Speech

Ella spoke completely off the cuff...

Mummy and Daddy, I think this is a great time today because it was a great wedding and I want to give you a nice bunch of flowers to keep.

Tuesday, July 28, 2009

Jake's Speech

This speech was actually written by Jake.
He explained the themes he wanted to include in his speech and Mummy and Daddy helped him to plan it out and form the sentences.
The sentiment is all Jake's .....

I am very pleased about this wedding and I think we are all very lucky.
Thankyou everyone for coming.
I hope you have a great time.
It is lots of fun to have so many other kids here.
Thankyou for coming.
Congratulations Mummy and Daddy.
I hope you have a great marriage.
I love you both very much.

Friday, July 24, 2009

Andi's Speech

When I tell people that my partner and I have been together for nearly 9 years, have 2 kids and a mortgage ..... and that we're about to be married, a common response is "Why?"

Well, there are many reasons ..... and here they are (In no particular order):

  • One reason for getting married is that, as a Jewish family, a wedding is an important milestone in our Jewish lives. We couldn't be more thrilled to have Ian and Carey come all the way from Leeds to celebrate with us and so that Ian could be our Rabbi today. Thankyou both so much.
  • Another significant reason is for the bling. I REALLY WANTED the diamond on my finger. Actually, this particular diamond has lots of historical meaning. It was a gift to my mum from Dad's dad on the occasion of my birth. He was so thrilled to have a baby girl in the family to be named after his late wife that he bought the diamond as a gift for Mum to say thankyou. Dan and I have taken the stone and re-set it to make it our own so it represents both a family history and our shared lives together. I think my grandfather would have approved and wish he ... and infact all my grandparents ... could have been here today. They would all have loved it.
  • Which segues nicely to the bit of my speech where we remember the people we have loved and who would have loved to be here today. In particular, Dan's late Grandparents who have already been mentioned by Shirley, my Mama who was silly and fun and loved a good shindig, Grandma Abay who loved family celebrations and was always so sweet to me and my little family. And of course, Johnny, who we lost last year but will always be a most beloved member of our family.
  • Speaking of family, I'd like to mention some family members who ARE here today. My children are so lucky to have doting aunts, uncles and a bevy of cousins and especially to have 4 grandparents and one great-grandparent all healthy and well and involved in their lives. This is something Dan and I were not lucky enough to have. Thankyou to Shirley, Peter and to Nan for welcoming me so warmly into your family. To my family, and inparticular to Mum and Dad, you have been my support network since my earliest days and I thank you for all the love and caring I have received along the way.
  • The next reason for getting married is for the party. What a fabulous excuse to bring together our friends and family ... all the important people in our lives .... to celebrate with us. Thankyou all so much for being here with us today. Many of you have come from far and wide. Thankyou to those of you who have travelled from interstate to be here with us. We really appreciate your efforts. Special mention has to go to those of you who have come from even further afield. Ian and Carey, we have already mentioned. My cousin Ilana has come from LA especially for this occasion as have my dear friends Emma and Richard and their 2 girls who have come all the way from Manchester. It shows true dedication for a Brit to leave a relatively hot English Summer and have a holiday in wintery Melbourne.
  • Another reason for Dan and I getting married today is for our children. We decided to wait until Jake and Ella were old enough to understand what was going on and to really enjoy the party and hopefully remember it. I am so proud of my two gingies. Jake is my sweet and sensitive boy who amazes me with his sense of fun and unending love of all things train related. My Ella is cheeky and headstrong (can't think where she gets that) and gives me such delicious cuddles I think I could melt everyday. Jake and Ella, I love you both more than you know and I am so proud to be your Ima.
  • Of course the most important reason for this wedding, from my perspective, is Dan. Dan, you are everything I have ever wanted in a partner. You are kind, clever, devoted to me and the children ... you are my confidant and my very best friend in the world. Dan, I love you with all my heart. You know this has to be true because you are the only person in the world for whom I would do what I am about to do ....

Tuesday, June 9, 2009

Dan's speech


Within our little family we have evolved a custom. On Friday nights, immediately after the official Shabbat blessings, and before the serving and devouring of the meal, we go around the dinner table and take turns to speak. Each person delivers a brief reflection on his or her day or week while everyone else listens. There is no question and answer, in theory no interrupting, just talking and attentive listening, and after each person has delivered his or her message a rousing "Shabbat Shalom".

The messages are often about an exciting occurrence, an expression of gratitude, a good deed done, a funny anecdote, a moment shared. But regardless of the content, I am always grateful for these few minutes of speaking, listening and sharing.

Now: Rather than attempt to replicate this custom in the large and go around the entire room, I would like instead to have a slightly longer turn for myself and reflect --- not so much on the past week -- but on the past 8 1/2 years since Andi and I first became an item.

Andi and I first met when Simon (today's MC) invited us over to his and Sara's flat to watch an evening of the athletics finals during the Sydney Olympics. I believe it was the final of the Men's 400 metres dash. Naturally, I was keen to see athletic history in the making, and I can only imagine that Andi was similarly excited.

A first date followed not long after and I was immediately taken with Andi's evident warmth, sense of humour, and voluptuousness, not necessarily in that order. As I got to know her I quickly began to appreciate her other wonderful qualities, including -- but, I stress, not limited to -- kindness, loyalty, intelligence, musicality, skill in cookery, excellence in hostessing, being a good listener, patience, an abhorrence of gratuitous violence and yet a love of Arnie movies, and a great sense of fun. The obsession with the cutting up and sewing back together of fabrics was also apparent fairly early on, and I am afraid that I rather encouraged it.

Other images of our early days together: We departed our flats and moved into a little rented house; survived a holiday in Malaysia notable for the stifling humidity and terrifying driving; the afternoon at Sorrento when we wrote a hilarious -- yet still unaccountably unpublished -- children's book together.

In 2003 Andi expressed some private concerns about her fertility, but these fears were somewhat allayed by her immediately falling pregnant. Jake was expected on New Year's Eve, but true to Prager (well: Feldman) family tradition arrived somewhat late, and in point of fact was only scared out under the threat of induction. The red hair was something of a surprise; we were also surprised and a little excited that his first sounds were more akin to singing than screaming. If he had said "toot toot" it might have been a more accurate portent.

Any remaining doubts over Andi's fertility were put to rest with a second pregnancy: this time Ella. The name Ella was not my original choice, but after many months of cogent and unabated lobbying I was persuaded. As a fan of nominal determinism, I now submit that our cheese-loving daughter's full name is really "Mozzerella".

Today, Jake and Ella are respectively ensconced in school and kindergarten. I am unreasonably proud that they have both portrayed Moses in Passover pageants, sleep through the night, and that they will respond to my cry of "Go!" with "'Pies!" in true Pavlovian fashion.

Earlier this year I asked Jake to list three things that he had learned, having just completed his first month at school. His immediate and definite response:
  1. Respect
  2. Sport, "and finally:"
  3. Italian
I asked the same question of Ella, who had just begun her kindergarten career. She replied:
  1. How to draw
  2. That [another child] is not my friend, "and"
  3. That I do not know how to draw.
And so, to the present, and to answer the burning questions:

Question 1: Where did the red hair come from?
Answer: Apparently, the mother's favourite color can determine the hair colour of her offspring.

Question 2: How much longer will this speech go for?
Answer: Just one more minute.

Some quick messages.

To Simon: Thank-you for being a wonderful friend, introducing us, agreeing to act as MC, and advising us -- well, Andi -- on the organization of this shin-dig. You know "from weddings".

To my friends from the martial arts, my "other" family: Arigato gozai mashita; arigato gozai mas. Thank-you for what has gone before; thank-you for what is yet to come.

To my new in-laws, Jacquie and Bumi: It's nice to be a son-in-law at last, after having been an outlaw for so long.

To my parents and my grandmother: One of the advantages of growing older is that you get to be proud of one's parents (and Nan) as well as one's children. Reverse-nachas, if you like.

Speaking of which:

To Jake: I am truly sorry that we are not allowing you go ahead with the original version of your speech; maybe we can include it on the DVD as a special feature.

To Ella: I hope that you are enjoying this party, and that one day you will eat vegetables.

Finally, to Andi: This wedding has been a testament to your organizational skill and rose-tinted vision, and to my ability to say "Yes, that sounds great" as a way of avoiding hard work. You have been a wonderful companion in good times, and a great support in difficult times. You bring color into my life. I love you heaps. Gimme a kiss.